The “Statement” of Sexual Intercourse

When a woman accepts a man’s penis into her vagina…
no matter what she thinks, feels, or verbalizes, she is SAYING… in the universal language of “actions speak louder than words”… and very literally:
“I accept you as my male partner, exactly as you are, into my life forever.”

Women, if you don’t actually think this about the man, and don’t feel this, and wouldn’t accept this, and wouldn’t actually SAY this out loud with your words, then do NOT demonstrate it with your body, with your body “language”. Because the very act of sexual intercourse is accepting a male, partnering in the most physically intimate way, in an act that can start the life of a new child, who will need parents who will need to stay in contact with each other forever.

The man receives that message on many levels, and he will likely be far LESS motivated to grow and change to win your approval as a permanent mate. He will think he already HAS won your full approval. He will get that message, and your words may imprint only as so much blah, blah, blah compared to your actions, which imprint with an entirely stronger power backed up by hormones and their intimately wired connection with the brain.

Couple Questioning

If you wouldn’t want that full, committed forever family life with a particular man, or if you know he wouldn’t consciously want that with YOU, then you owe it to yourself, to him, and to any future children, to ABSTAIN from that particular act at that time with that person.

As a relationship develops, or even in a one-night-stand, when two people engage in sexual intercourse, this proverbial “line is drawn”. People may THINK they can erase the line using contraception, but one never fools Nature; one never fools God. The line is objectively there, as it HAS been DRAWN by his pencil and your paper. You have offered a “written prayer” together, co-authored by the two of you, in conjunction with the Creator of all.*


This line that has been drawn is the elephant in almost every room where adolescents and adults exist in modern society. People “pray” without meaning to pray… a prayer that they wouldn’t consciously pray… and they are doing this with their bodies, in an act that is meant to be sacred, and only entered into in a sacred arena. That arena is a marriage that a man and woman have each and together selected consciously. It is an arena one is meant to enter only after a period of deeply coming to know and evaluate the dating partner as both a potential life mate and as a potential co-parent.

Family and The Myth of Independence 7-30-2015

We are not to engage in sexual intercourse prior to marriage not because of some oppressive and irrelevant rule, but because of our very Nature as human beings. Waiting for sexual intercourse until marriage gives both partners a full chance to make a CONSCIOUS decision to approach, be approached, build and grow together in courtship, and ultimately FREELY accept (or freely not accept) the partner in a mutual bond of acceptance, support, bearing difficulty, sharing joys together and embracing and welcoming the potential to co-create new people in a fully welcoming and devoted family.

Ladies of ALL AGES:
When you are “hot & heavy” with someone, take ONE moment to ASK YOURSELF THESE 2 QUESTIONS:
“Do I accept this man as my male partner, EXACTLY AS HE IS, into my life FOREVER?
Does THIS MAN accept ME, EXACTLY AS I AM, into his life FOREVER?”
If you can’t answer fully and consciously YES to BOTH of these questions,
you know you must not move forward into sexual intercourse
(no matter whether you have contraception or not).

*Gospel of Jesus’s Apostle Matthew, Chapter 18 in the Bible:
* k Amen, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.
* l Again, [amen,] I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything for which they are to pray, it shall be granted to them by my heavenly Father.
* m For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.”

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Written by Tracy Hernandez, formerly known as T. Bergenn